You deserve to love the new you!
Going through a divorce can take a lot from you as well as out of you. Not only does it feel like it’s taking your energy, strength and time, it also feels like it’s taking away who you are as a person. In a marriage it’s not uncommon to lose at least some of your self-identity. You may have became intertwined with your spouse.
When you go through a divorce, suddenly you can find yourself unsure of who you are as a person. You may not know what you enjoy anymore, or what makes you happy. You may not know what drives you, and what lights the spark inside of you.
As you navigate through your divorce recovery journey, it’s important to spend the time embracing the new you. Spend time trying new things, re-embracing old hobbies, reconnecting with others, and creating the version of you that you want to be in this next chapter of your life.
A divorce can offer you a fresh start, a new blank slate for you to work with. Maybe you choose to shop for a new wardrobe, change your hairstyle and color, or change other outward appearance things about yourself. You possibly may start new hobbies or learn new skills. But it’s also important to do the internal deeper work so that you can work on loving the new you.
Here are some tips to help you learn to love the new you:
Make peace with your past:
It’s important to first acknowledge your past for what it was, and then work to let it go. Now this isn’t something that can just be done with the snap of fingers, but it’s important to give yourself some closure from the last chapter of your life. This will help you so that you can begin to take small steps to move your life forward with this new fresh start.
Get selfish, and focus on yourself:
Leaving a marriage means that now you can get selfish and focus on yourself rather than someone you’re in a relationship with. Focus on healing your broken heart and begin to learn to love yourself before you open your heart to the dating world again. Focus on the things that fill your cup, bring you joy in life, and matter to you. Take some time to truly focus on yourself before moving on.
Try new things:
Embrace this opportunity as a chance to try new things. Step outside of your comfort zone and try a new hobby, make new friends, join a new group, or try anything else that you’ve always thought would be fun to do.
Set Goals:
One of the biggest challenges often talked about after divorce is the fact that suddenly your normal day-to-day life and routine is suddenly turned upside down. It’s important to work to create some stability in your life so that you don’t get stuck. Work to create some goals for things you want to work on, add to your daily routine, and prioritize. Maybe you set the goal to spend time in prayer every evening before bed. Maybe you set the goal to get up an hour earlier in the morning to go to the gym. Set some goals. They don’t have to be large ones either. Start small.
Psalm 139:14 I will give thanks to you because I have been so amazingly and miraculously made. Your works are miraculous, and my soul is fully aware of this.
Always remember that the Lord made you as you are for a reason. He loves you and you are meant to love yourself, no matter what chapter of life you’re in or what version of yourself you currently are.
